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samneale5 said:
Hi, im looking for if anyone knows of anyone who has a duncan ferguson signed photos. Its my dad's 50th soon and I would love to give him something special. My dad suffers with depression so its been a hard couple of years. Thanks :)
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I'd also have a look online too, there are reputable specialist companies who sell this sort of stuff. Obviously they'll charge more than the club, but could be an option ?.

Nice thing to do for your dad, well in mate .
 
Bad day today, lids.

Really bad.

Just the flicker of thinking about going 'home' just after dinner time today made everything come rushing back and I nearly lost the plot at work...
 

Durham Toffee said:
Bad day today, lids.

Really bad.

Just the flicker of thinking about going 'home' just after dinner time today made everything come rushing back and I nearly lost the plot at work...
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On a positive note though. Day 1 is over. You got through it. Take a moment to pat yourself on the back. You didn't lose it. Flickers will be around regularly, but you need to congratulate yourself on getting through the day.

Day 2 next. One day at a time.
 
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
 
wbn61 said:
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
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Jesus mate I am sorry to read that. My condolences to you, your family and everyone. That sucks.
Stay positive. In time try and not do the guilt thing, as difficult as it seems to stop.
Keep posting in here. Take care of yourself.
 
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wbn61 said:
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
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Words can't express what you must be going through at the moment mate. Please don't blame yourself as what could you or anyone else have done to stop him ?. My thoughts are with you and your family .
 
wbn61 said:
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
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I can't even begin to put this into any semblance of condolence mate.

I am deeply sorry from the bottom of my heart. Here I am moaning about something like this, and you're suffering such an horrific time.

All the best. God bless.
 

wbn61 said:
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
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Mate, so very sorry to read this, condolences to you and your family.

Thanks though for telling GOT. @Groucho set this thread up as a response to Gary Speeds similar tragedy. By virtue of you posting about your brother's suicide you may well help someone reading your post from doing the same.

You are a courageous man, you have suffered illness, had a terrible shock about your brother, yet still have the courage to post here knowing it helps you a little but that it also helps others a great deal.

Rest assured that you will have the thoughts, prayers and support of many on GOT tonight and in the future.

Take care, our thoughts are with you.
 
Durham Toffee said:
I can't even begin to put this into any semblance of condolence mate.

I am deeply sorry from the bottom of my heart. Here I am moaning about something like this, and you're suffering such an horrific time.

All the best. God bless.
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Perspective is a life lesson isn't it mate? Glad you/we can all learn from reading posts like his.
All the best for Day 2 tomorrow ;)
 
wbn61 said:
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
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So sorry to to here that :( We are all here for you mate. Keep strong, please do not blame yourself. Mine and all blue's thought's are with you and your family. Keep going strong mate
 
wbn61 said:
me again. just a message to all of you suffering at the moment or those that have someone they are worrying about. hang in there. do everything you possible can but don't give up. what a weekend eh? good wins for everton and Wrexham, them losing yesterday, last day of my cycle of chemo went to bed reasonably happy.
got woken up this morning to be told my brother had hung himself. we knew he was depressed and an alcoholic but you still don't see it coming. I just needed to get it out and this thread is the closest I feel to to air it. you've all been kind to me since I started posting on here and know most of you will understand. just feel lost at the moment not knowing what to do how I should feel or act. just been wandering around aimlessly for most of the afternoon. tried contacting people or visiting them to let them know but due to modern times they all knew already via facebook which was a bit upsetting. maybe i'm a bit hypocritical seeing as I am doing this. just feeling guilty at the moment as I should have done more but I know that is natural and it will pass. so all that need it take care.
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Previous posters have expressed similar thoughts to my own so just know that we've got your back if need be.

The bit I've highlighted is somewhat annoying to me. Part of the grieving process is preparing oneself to pass on the sad news, and I'm sure its part of the healing process too, as you get to talk about the issue & at the very least, think of the fond memories you have. Plastered on the internet or FB is not what I'd want either.

Having said that, we try to be accepting of other people's needs and perhaps some people can't bring themselves to telling others in a face to face way. I'm sorry for you that it got out via FB which doesn't seem to be the way you would've handled it.

Take care mate & I'll keep your Brother in my thoughts today.
 

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