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YoboCopter
Player Valuation: £50m
Tommy Chong
Player Valuation: £60m
I wish I had better advice for you mate, but just be there for your mom, whatever she needs.
Stay positive.
Gwladysover
Player Valuation: £35m
I’ve no experience of the situation but speaking as a Mum, your love, support and the knowledge you are there will mean the world to her. Very best wishes to you both.
As others have said but also visit here to help yourself cope at such a hard time.
My son is currently receiving immunotherapy- nowhere near as harsh as chemo. Just be there for your Mum, accept that there are days when she won't feel like talking to anybody and tell her you love her - lots of times! Wishing you all the best x
Furey1878
Player Valuation: £70m
Having gone through it with my own Mum I wish I had something more specific to offer you mate but honestly the best you can do is just be there. Be patient with her as chemo really does take it's toll on the patient. Be a hand to hold, a shoulder to lean on, and an ear to listen x
davids
Player Valuation: £70m
Depends very much on the type of chemo. I went through two cycles of Cisplatin some years ago and maintaining body weight is problematic. Try to keep her eating well for as long as possible if that or a similar chemo drug is used.
I can only echo everybody else's sentiments and advice.
All the very best to your mum during her treatment, whilst you're looking after her don't forget to look after yourself.
USABlue
Player Valuation: £70m
Thank you all for the kind words of support! It is very appreciated.
Just finished the first round of chemo yesterday (she's getting 3 days of treatment every 3 weeks for 3 months). Holding up ok so far, we'll see how the weekend goes. Has a followup appointment Monday as they are concerned she may need a blood transfusion at something during her treatment so fingers crossed.
Just finished the first round of chemo yesterday (she's getting 3 days of treatment every 3 weeks for 3 months). Holding up ok so far, we'll see how the weekend goes. Has a followup appointment Monday as they are concerned she may need a blood transfusion at something during her treatment so fingers crossed.
Harryflashman
Player Valuation: £60m
Sorry I hadn’t seen your post .
Like @Furey1878 I looked after my mum and subsequently a friend , as has been said being there is the most important thing . Chatting , providing company , watching rubbish telly programmes or whatever.
Depending on the treament delivery the staying the logistics and keeping company or providing a book if she reads to take her mind of it , I had my 90 year on mum on the iPad. or if If you’re not there when she’s taking the tablets those little daily pill boxes are really useful to separate into days and am/pm to keep on top of them . Although with chemo you might need to make sure there big enough ! Food if she’s not hungry then little and frequently and if it’s stuff she likes then great . They might provide meal supplements but there is stuff online as well .
Making sure she’s happy and comfortable , well fed and clear of infections and risk of infections (people washing their hands etc ) . Look after her but look after yourself and try and set some time for you, even if it’s only a little . You’re no good to her if your run down .
I've recently started therapy after my dad died a few weeks ago. He wasn't a very good guy but I've been consumed with guilt, anger and just confusion. It is helping I think but it just seems a bit futile giving it a go. Anyone felt like that before?
PKwalnuts
Player Valuation: £10m
Can relate. Those feelings are natural, despite whatever went before, that is a bond that will always be present. Easy to say it isn't futile, and it may be unpleasant revisiting memories and talking about things, but by doing so it will help you come to terms with your loss, and how maybe your that wish things could have been different, is not something you can control or change and to help let that go and move forward.
Theres nothing you can do. Try to keep her spirits high, make sure she eats (ie: edibles), just be understanding. I didn't go through that exactly but my mother passed from....issues that are similar enough to what chemo patients go through.
No need to even acknowledge this, just want to vent a bit
I feel like a total failure. I started my own business last year and I did really well first year with some hiccups but this year has been just a total shitshow. I've maxed out most of my credit cards, my credit went from like 840 to 580 for some fn reason. I probably owe like $100k in credit card debt too. I'm not worried about being able to pay it off, I can but it's just going to take a bit of time. The PROBLEM is that "it takes time" isn't anything corporate america believes in.
It's just been a really rough year.
I feel like a total failure. I started my own business last year and I did really well first year with some hiccups but this year has been just a total shitshow. I've maxed out most of my credit cards, my credit went from like 840 to 580 for some fn reason. I probably owe like $100k in credit card debt too. I'm not worried about being able to pay it off, I can but it's just going to take a bit of time. The PROBLEM is that "it takes time" isn't anything corporate america believes in.
It's just been a really rough year.