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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

its definitely something ill have to do if anything happens again in the future, but at the moment i think im doing okay. i know its only a week but this time last week i couldnt of envisioned it. thanks anyway
Good luck mate. Don't rule out going to see a dr . My mood 2 weeks ago was the best in years . Today I'm back as depressed as I was 6 months ago for no reason whatsoever. I'll be going back to my dr on Tuesday because I can't be bothered living life feeling this crap all the time it needs sorting.

I myself have a very addictive personality and it's been my downfall in life . I'm 33 and just starting to realise this and trying to fix it .

Good luck
 
Good luck mate. Don't rule out going to see a dr . My mood 2 weeks ago was the best in years . Today I'm back as depressed as I was 6 months ago for no reason whatsoever. I'll be going back to my dr on Tuesday because I can't be bothered living life feeling this crap all the time it needs sorting.

I myself have a very addictive personality and it's been my downfall in life . I'm 33 and just starting to realise this and trying to fix it .

Good luck
Deffo the right thing to do is go back to the doctor.
 

ive been sitting here for a good few minutes thinking about how to start this so im just going to jump straight to it. im 19 years old and have suffered since a young age with an extremely addictive personality, which is basically excatly how it sounds. as soon as i found something new that i enjoyed, i couldn't stop. this includes anything from my favourite meal to obviously drugs/alcohol, which you'd have probably guessed!

when i was at school i was quite clever and was targeted A's in pretty much every subject. i wasn't a bad lad at school but i wasn't good either, i had a laugh and a joke and was pretty lazy in terms of actually listening etc, but the person i was at school wasn't what i became for the next few years. i got expelled from my school in my last year for something which got completely blown out of proportion by the school, who at the time were trying to make an example of me to the others in my opinion. after getting expelled i had nothing to do to occupy me, and so i started to knock round with the lads who also werent in school, lads who were selling/taking drugs etc, the usual stuff. at school my social circle were nice lads, we'd go the game together etc and we werent into drinking or anything at that point. but after being expelled we seen less and less of eachother, and i seen more and more of the others.

shortly after being expelled i started to smoke weed. not the worst drug in the world by all means and for some people its fine as they can have it every now and then, but not for somebody with an addictive personality. after about a month i couldnt go to sleep without it, couldnt eat without it, couldnt be myself without it. me and my old mates of course werent working, so we needed a way to get our weed, our cigis, whatever we were having at the time. we got in trouble with the police alot, i became somebody i never thought i could, i treated everybody around me badly and became very depressed. i ended up stopping smoking it because i had smoked that much that my mind was so fried and paranoid, my mum tried to give me paracetemol for a headache and i thought she was trying to kill me!

but often with people like me, they quit one thing and move onto another. and what i moved onto was even worse. gambling and alcohol. this has lead to me losing over two months wages on betting, several hospital trips for alcohol poisoning, and a rapid weight gain, i went from being a fastest 100m runner in our school to being one of the fattest! this wasnt helped by a long term relationship, in which my ex cheated on me with one of the lads (not the good ones) which really had an affect.

at the moment im doing a bit better, im trying to lose weight and i havent had a drink, a bet, a smoke, anything for just over a week which to me is a miracle. thanks to anyone for reading all of that!

Hey mate, thank you for sharing!

I can relate to about half your post, as I also had an alcohol addiction at an even younger age than you and went through a really tough period myself, which has led to my current state, during which I'm grateful I can control myself with nearly anything, despite the depression. It's not an easy thing and it's easily overlooked, in my experience at least, because of our age and all. I'm glad you're trying to help yourself mate, but as someone who did the same - I'd strongly suggest seeing your GP or a specialist (if you've got that around you obviously, like) as it's gonna be much easier!

I'm usually not exactly fantastic with advice, but hope this helps somehow lol
And best of luck mate, don't forget we're here to listen if you need to share anything :)
 
Good luck mate. Don't rule out going to see a dr . My mood 2 weeks ago was the best in years . Today I'm back as depressed as I was 6 months ago for no reason whatsoever. I'll be going back to my dr on Tuesday because I can't be bothered living life feeling this crap all the time it needs sorting.

I myself have a very addictive personality and it's been my downfall in life . I'm 33 and just starting to realise this and trying to fix it .

Good luck
good luck mate always here
 
its definitely something ill have to do if anything happens again in the future, but at the moment i think im doing okay. i know its only a week but this time last week i couldnt of envisioned it. thanks anyway

Mate, knowing you have these issues at such a young age is testament to your obvious intelligence. Fair play pal. A week off all them demons is brilliant, so as others have said, a bit of professional help, combined with your own strength will see you well soon I trust.

Good luck mate.
 

ive been sitting here for a good few minutes thinking about how to start this so im just going to jump straight to it. im 19 years old and have suffered since a young age with an extremely addictive personality, which is basically excatly how it sounds. as soon as i found something new that i enjoyed, i couldn't stop. this includes anything from my favourite meal to obviously drugs/alcohol, which you'd have probably guessed!

when i was at school i was quite clever and was targeted A's in pretty much every subject. i wasn't a bad lad at school but i wasn't good either, i had a laugh and a joke and was pretty lazy in terms of actually listening etc, but the person i was at school wasn't what i became for the next few years. i got expelled from my school in my last year for something which got completely blown out of proportion by the school, who at the time were trying to make an example of me to the others in my opinion. after getting expelled i had nothing to do to occupy me, and so i started to knock round with the lads who also werent in school, lads who were selling/taking drugs etc, the usual stuff. at school my social circle were nice lads, we'd go the game together etc and we werent into drinking or anything at that point. but after being expelled we seen less and less of eachother, and i seen more and more of the others.

shortly after being expelled i started to smoke weed. not the worst drug in the world by all means and for some people its fine as they can have it every now and then, but not for somebody with an addictive personality. after about a month i couldnt go to sleep without it, couldnt eat without it, couldnt be myself without it. me and my old mates of course werent working, so we needed a way to get our weed, our cigis, whatever we were having at the time. we got in trouble with the police alot, i became somebody i never thought i could, i treated everybody around me badly and became very depressed. i ended up stopping smoking it because i had smoked that much that my mind was so fried and paranoid, my mum tried to give me paracetemol for a headache and i thought she was trying to kill me!

but often with people like me, they quit one thing and move onto another. and what i moved onto was even worse. gambling and alcohol. this has lead to me losing over two months wages on betting, several hospital trips for alcohol poisoning, and a rapid weight gain, i went from being a fastest 100m runner in our school to being one of the fattest! this wasnt helped by a long term relationship, in which my ex cheated on me with one of the lads (not the good ones) which really had an affect.

at the moment im doing a bit better, im trying to lose weight and i havent had a drink, a bet, a smoke, anything for just over a week which to me is a miracle. thanks to anyone for reading all of that!

Well done la.

This isn't a thread for anonymous backslapping it's just a boss thread full of real lads and girls.

It makes me feel fortunate to know some of these lids. A real credit to yourselves.
 
ive been sitting here for a good few minutes thinking about how to start this so im just going to jump straight to it. im 19 years old and have suffered since a young age with an extremely addictive personality, which is basically excatly how it sounds. as soon as i found something new that i enjoyed, i couldn't stop. this includes anything from my favourite meal to obviously drugs/alcohol, which you'd have probably guessed!

when i was at school i was quite clever and was targeted A's in pretty much every subject. i wasn't a bad lad at school but i wasn't good either, i had a laugh and a joke and was pretty lazy in terms of actually listening etc, but the person i was at school wasn't what i became for the next few years. i got expelled from my school in my last year for something which got completely blown out of proportion by the school, who at the time were trying to make an example of me to the others in my opinion. after getting expelled i had nothing to do to occupy me, and so i started to knock round with the lads who also werent in school, lads who were selling/taking drugs etc, the usual stuff. at school my social circle were nice lads, we'd go the game together etc and we werent into drinking or anything at that point. but after being expelled we seen less and less of eachother, and i seen more and more of the others.

shortly after being expelled i started to smoke weed. not the worst drug in the world by all means and for some people its fine as they can have it every now and then, but not for somebody with an addictive personality. after about a month i couldnt go to sleep without it, couldnt eat without it, couldnt be myself without it. me and my old mates of course werent working, so we needed a way to get our weed, our cigis, whatever we were having at the time. we got in trouble with the police alot, i became somebody i never thought i could, i treated everybody around me badly and became very depressed. i ended up stopping smoking it because i had smoked that much that my mind was so fried and paranoid, my mum tried to give me paracetemol for a headache and i thought she was trying to kill me!

but often with people like me, they quit one thing and move onto another. and what i moved onto was even worse. gambling and alcohol. this has lead to me losing over two months wages on betting, several hospital trips for alcohol poisoning, and a rapid weight gain, i went from being a fastest 100m runner in our school to being one of the fattest! this wasnt helped by a long term relationship, in which my ex cheated on me with one of the lads (not the good ones) which really had an affect.

at the moment im doing a bit better, im trying to lose weight and i havent had a drink, a bet, a smoke, anything for just over a week which to me is a miracle. thanks to anyone for reading all of that!
I reckon you should try & turn that addictive energy into an advantage for yourself. Can you perhaps get into fitness, or something like that? Channel your energy into something beneficial. It may lead to a new career.

Easy to write, hard to do... I know. But you should always look at your strengths & how to best utilise them. You may not see that addictiveness as a strength, but turning it into one would be a massive benefit to you.
 
I reckon you should try & turn that addictive energy into an advantage for yourself. Can you perhaps get into fitness, or something like that? Channel your energy into something beneficial. It may lead to a new career.

Easy to write, hard to do... I know. But you should always look at your strengths & how to best utilise them. You may not see that addictiveness as a strength, but turning it into one would be a massive benefit to you.


Great advice that, some of the best sportsmen have had a addictive personalities which has driven them to become true greats.

Jonny Wilkinson being an example. Used to practice kicking for hours and hours after the rest had gone home.
 
Seen a couple of posters mention feeling bad because they know there are people with worse problems. Don't.

That's like having problems paying the rent but thinking you dont need/deserve help because others are living on the street.

Yes there is always someone in a worse situation, however that doesn't mean your problem is insignificant. In the same way, the fact that other people we know seem* to be able to deal with their problems, doesn't mean that you should 'snap out of it'.

Feeling guilty because you aren't as bad off as someone else or aren't as strong as someone else will only compound the problem.


*I use the word 'seem' because many times we're taken in by people's acts. What that means is that other people are often taken in by our acts.
They only know we need help if we tell them.
 

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