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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Robertor said:
There's so many things to think about but I'm pretty laid back about most of it, I'll probably be over it fairly soon and settled down. No reason to look at the bad things in life when you can look at it how it really is that I'm in a great place at the moment, geographically and emotionally.

As I said before, time should do it for me and I feel a bit bad for moaning now to be honest.

Thanks mate, appreciate it.
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A moan moaned is a moan halved.

been there, well not LA there but there there.
arrived in NZ, knew no one, had no job, had to find somewhere to live in 5 days as the motel was v expensive and booked out being the week after new year, survived.
It wasn't until I saw the episode where tony soprano had his panic attacks years later that I knew what had been happening.
#gibberingwreck
can laugh now...just.*looks for pills
 
degsy said:
A moan moaned is a moan halved.

been there, well not LA there but there there.
arrived in NZ, knew no one, had no job, had to find somewhere to live in 5 days as the motel was v expensive and booked out being the week after new year, survived.
It wasn't until I saw the episode where tony soprano had his panic attacks years later that I knew what had been happening.
#gibberingwreck
can laugh now...just.*looks for pills
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Must've been really hard being completely alone in a country miles away. Fair play to you!
 
This is something close to my heart. I've dealt with depression for years, and always took the "tough through it" approach. Recently, I had a major episode - to the point that I was seconds away from the worst last decision I could've made. Turns out that self medicating with drink for years isn't the best treatment after all.

Instead, I got online and found a place to go. Spent about a month in what I'd describe as the strangest summer camp you'll ever see. It was difficult and awkward and a million other things, but it helped me to finally address things. All I can say to anyone is that there's always a way to get better. Always.
 
cbpointblank said:
This is something close to my heart. I've dealt with depression for years, and always took the "tough through it" approach. Recently, I had a major episode - to the point that I was seconds away from the worst last decision I could've made. Turns out that self medicating with drink for years isn't the best treatment after all.

Instead, I got online and found a place to go. Spent about a month in what I'd describe as the strangest summer camp you'll ever see. It was difficult and awkward and a million other things, but it helped me to finally address things. All I can say to anyone is that there's always a way to get better. Always.
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Welcome mate, keep posting, sounds like you've been through some rough times and come out the other side ;)
 

Woolly Blue said:
Give it time mate.
I've lived and worked in a fair few places in the world, including the States, and people in your circumstances tend to feel into four camps :-

  1. Love the new location, the life and everything. Will never move back to the UK permanently
  2. Love the new location, the life and everything, but it's not quite home. Move back eventually.
  3. Love the new location, the life and everything, but can't settle at all for whatever reason
  4. Hate it, take me home now
Very few people fall into (3), even lesss into (4). I was a (2), but there's a pretty equal split between (1) and (2). After six to twelve months, you'll know which camp you fall into. In the meantime, enjoy the experience ;)[/QUOTE
Robertor said:
I hope we're a 1 to be honest, I'm not a fan of Liverpool. Obviously there's Everton and family but the way the world is I can have both them things out here, I'm flying my family out to stay with us for Christmas anyway. Maybe if it's not LA, we'll find somewhere that'll be home for us, but I'm pretty sure it won't be Liverpool.
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Must be great to have the opportunity - out of interest what job do you do ?
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Had a family friend, 51 yrs old, take his life a few weeks back. Hit us (and everyone else) like a ton of bricks.

Left behind wife and four kids, youngest of which is ten and is good friends with my youngest son. He was the one who found him.

Issues with anxiety and depression and from what I understand, his medication.

We went from shock to anger to sadness in a very short time span. Memorial service was SRO. Just crushed by such a selfish act.
 
TX Bill said:
Had a family friend, 51 yrs old, take his life a few weeks back. Hit us (and everyone else) like a ton of bricks.

Left behind wife and four kids, youngest of which is ten and is good friends with my youngest son. He was the one who found him.

Issues with anxiety and depression and from what I understand, his medication.

We went from shock to anger to sadness in a very short time span. Memorial service was SRO. Just crushed by such a selfish act.
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Very sad post, terrible situation certainly. Are you saying with your final comment though that someone who has "issues with anxiety and depression" should be blamed for taking their own life?
 
mrs the esk said:
Very sad post, terrible situation certainly. Are you saying with your final comment though that someone who has "issues with anxiety and depression" should be blamed for taking their own life?
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Not blaming anyone. He isn't around for the aftermath and devastation unfortunately.
 
TX Bill said:
Left a family behind to figure it out and financial issues. If that isn't the ultimate definition of selfishness....
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TX Bill said:
Not blaming anyone. He isn't around for the aftermath and devastation unfortunately.
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Gosh, I always though suicide was the final act of desperation not selfishness.

What state can a man (or woman's) mind be in that they think suicide is the only option, particularly when they have a family? They must know the devastation they will leave behind but believe that is better than dealing with the situation they face.

This thread is about helping people who may or may not be suicidal but have problems. It's an attempt to stop the situation that your friend faced without a solution or help. It's not about labeling someone as selfish.
 

TX Bill said:
...cause you don't like the facts? And you're telling me to jog on?

I told you to keep it to yourself but apparently you're incapable.

If you really can't deal with the subject matter, then I suggest you get a mod involved. Either way, you're speaking from a lack of knowledge here and it's showing.

So how about you jog on mate?
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With respect, there's been over 2,700 posts in this thread, none of which have been in any way judgmental, always helpful and positive - I suggest it is you that cannot deal with the subject matter not the regular posters in this thread.
 
TX Bill said:
Who said it wasn't a final act of desperation? Who also said that those two are mutually exclusive?

And frankly, those who might be possibly considering such and act of finality should also consider the damage and trauma on those they leave behind. That's life lasting trauma we're talking about.
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I'm sure they do consider that Bill, but even after they've considered it, they can't come up ( in their mind ) any better option, which is tragic. This thread started because of Gary Speeds suicide, a man with lots to live for but who couldn't see any other way forward.
 
TX Bill said:
I find your post highly disrespectful in that my post wasn't judgmental towards MY good friend and yet YOU can't deal with the reality of what suicide does to those left behind.

Please refrain from commenting further on any of my posts.
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I have edited my comments in the interest of the thread, but be left with no illusions as to what I think of you.
 
TX Bill said:
He's gone past that Woolly. I'm offended on so many levels here.
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Good. So am I. By your comments.

Suicide is soooo selfish.

'sake Bill, stick to guns and not to here. This is not the place for this kind of things you're trying to do. It's evident you know next to nothing about mental illness, or how bad depression is, and I know this 100% because you claim suicide is selfish.

Pray to whatever deity you pray that you never get this bad mentally.
 

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