wbn61
Player Valuation: £8m
as an aside I have a dog and have had dogs gone so can understand that. but understand what you are saying thank you.
moyeslovechild
Player Valuation: £15m
don't think that sounds much like being a bad person mate... if this makes sense..
worrying is caring, it can be somewhat reassuring to be reminded that we're still very much connected to this world, we're human and we care. as testing and stressful as it can be.
a relative passed away somewhat unexpectedly a few weeks back. i wasn't close to him at all, but my mum was. It really hurt me to see her hurt, but I was glad that i could be there, even though there's only so much you can do.
our relationships with other people define us more than anything, i think. certainly more than personal situations we have no control over.
A few of you in the last few pages have highlighted the need to take a step back and take stock. Take time to consolidate things and give your head a break. Often when with a step back it's not as bad as it may seem when your mind is whizzing away and intensely focusing on it.
How you do that is down to experimentation. It may be going for a nice walk somewhere, taking time out to read or other methods. I started meditation with an App a couple of weeks ago and it helps my stress levels and gives me that time out. Meditation is completely not my thing and my mates will rip me for it but it works for me.
If you're interested there's a great website which also has Apps called Headspace, ran by a British guy who is dead matter of fact about it which helps as I don't like it when it's over spiritual - it puts me off.
Anyway, here's the link. If it helps one of us then it's been worthwhile.
https://www.headspace.com/
How you do that is down to experimentation. It may be going for a nice walk somewhere, taking time out to read or other methods. I started meditation with an App a couple of weeks ago and it helps my stress levels and gives me that time out. Meditation is completely not my thing and my mates will rip me for it but it works for me.
If you're interested there's a great website which also has Apps called Headspace, ran by a British guy who is dead matter of fact about it which helps as I don't like it when it's over spiritual - it puts me off.
Anyway, here's the link. If it helps one of us then it's been worthwhile.
https://www.headspace.com/
kithnou
Player Valuation: £70m
Thanks my man. Will take a look
Wat Tyler
Player Valuation: £70m
It's not feeling sorry for yourself, it's easy to think like that but it isn't that, so don't give yourself a hard time over it.
Brilliant advice that, it's what works best for you and to find the thing that works for you can be real hit and miss.
That's one of the reasons I always recommend that people have a look at the - MENTAL HEALTH FORUM as there's so many on there that can offer coping mechanisms that most wouldn't have considered .
Minimeister
Player Valuation: £35m
To be fair mate that's a hell of a lot going on for one man to cope with. Some people would struggle to deal with half that!
Robertor
Has left the building
I'm broken. My beautiful wife of 4 years has been diagnosed with cancer. I've been trying to stay strong for her and for our baby, but I need to break down and cry and kick and punch everything and ask why these things happen to me, to us. We've been through so much together, we're 26 and we've been together for 11 years, we've been through my coma, a miscarriage, losing two dogs, family members and a massive move to America, now this.
I don't know what to do, seriously. People say that like its a cliche but I don't know how to do anything, everything's just blank space to me. I thought this was it now and we could settle with new jobs and a new house in a new country with the potential for everything to be great.
Her mum and grandma have had cancer and they've both beaten it, I only hope my dear wife can be as strong. I can't believe I'm typing these words. I'm completely shattered.
I don't know what to do, seriously. People say that like its a cliche but I don't know how to do anything, everything's just blank space to me. I thought this was it now and we could settle with new jobs and a new house in a new country with the potential for everything to be great.
Her mum and grandma have had cancer and they've both beaten it, I only hope my dear wife can be as strong. I can't believe I'm typing these words. I'm completely shattered.
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
My god. So soon after your move as well.
I have no words mate, other than my prayers that your wife will beat this filthy disease. My sincere and heartfelt very best wishes mate.
Robertor
Has left the building
Thank you very much, honestly.
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
I will leave more practical support to folk a billion times more qualified than me to give it mate. But you will both be in my thoughts.
jal123
Player Valuation: £40m
The only advice I have is make sure you give your self a platform to talk about how this affects you. If there's a boxing gym by you go and punch, kick, scream however much you want. In my experience good men like yourself will show a resilience through something like this that everyone takes for granted, expecting you to be strong. Take the time for yourself, if it's a walk in the park with your favourite band in your headphones, kicking seven shades of [Poor language removed] out of a punchbag in the boxing gym, downing 5 pints in the bar. Make sure you get that escape for yourself.
This is from experience. You'll find you put all your energy into your beautiful wife and child, never forget yourself.
All the best and if you haven't got access to anywhere to release your anger pm me with everything you want to scream at everyone you really can't. That's all I can offer apart from my thoughts, and prayers with your family.
Take care.
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
I still find it difficult to remember that this is a football forum when I wander into this thread. Just staggering looking at the posts and the support.
Robertor
Has left the building
Thanks so much mate. It means the world.
Minimeister
Player Valuation: £35m
As Roydo said mate there's no words that can comfort you at the moment but don't deny yourself the right to be angry and that emotion will give way to the strength to support your wife in these horrible times. Best of luck to you both mate, if you have gotten through all those rough times together you can get through this one.