Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[EFCPaul]

What's your job mate ?

Maybe look for a career change ?.

Have done mate, I've applied for some new ones.

My current job is manual labor, I won't say where exactly though. I can do most aspects of the job no problem, I don't struggle at all like I did in the one before this. The problem here is just the people, they're not my cup of tea at all and I'm clearly not theirs. It's not an urgent problem and for a lot of people it wouldn't be a problem at all. I've come to realise though that I just don't like any aspect of the job really and if that's the case why stick with it and become a drone? You get spoken too like dirt a lot of the time by customers and now I know I'm not liked by my colleagues? Why keep putting up with it when I can just look for something else?

As I've said before, I'm lucky in the sense that I don't have any urgent needs for money, I live modestly and don't have any vices or kids to pay for. I could leave tomorrow and be fine for a good while. I don't want to do that though, I don't want to feel like I'm throwing in the towel. I just don't want to become a person who grows to accept their misery in a job they hate but need.

I'm going to apply other places and hopefully be out in the next few months, then I can leave and never look back. It will be two jobs I had and left inside a year but both for completely different reasons. One because it was causing me serious mental distress, the other because the work and environment simply wasn't something to stick with long-term.

 

[COYBL25]

Have done mate, I've applied for some new ones.

My current job is manual labor, I won't say where exactly though. I can do most aspects of the job no problem, I don't struggle at all like I did in the one before this. The problem here is just the people, they're not my cup of tea at all and I'm clearly not theirs. It's not an urgent problem and for a lot of people it wouldn't be a problem at all. I've come to realise though that I just don't like any aspect of the job really and if that's the case why stick with it and become a drone? You get spoken too like dirt a lot of the time by customers and now I know I'm not liked by my colleagues? Why keep putting up with it when I can just look for something else?

As I've said before, I'm lucky in the sense that I don't have any urgent needs for money, I live modestly and don't have any vices or kids to pay for. I could leave tomorrow and be fine for a good while. I don't want to do that though, I don't want to feel like I'm throwing in the towel. I just don't want to become a person who grows to accept their misery in a job they hate but need.

I'm going to apply other places and hopefully be out in the next few months, then I can leave and never look back. It will be two jobs I had and left inside a year but both for completely different reasons. One because it was causing me serious mental distress, the other because the work and environment simply wasn't something to stick with long-term.

For what it's worth, I think you'd be doing the right thing leaving.

The job I was in over a decade ago, is the root cause of all my past and current problems.

What's good, is that you've got the self awareness to identify your job as being part of the problem and can take active steps to remedy the situation, by leaving.

 

[EFCPaul]

For what it's worth, I think you'd be doing the right thing leaving.

The job I was in over a decade ago, is the root cause of all my past and current problems.

What's good, is that you've got the self awareness to identify your job as being part of the problem and can take active steps to remedy the situation, by leaving.

Yeah mate, it's not worth it and I know it. I stayed in my last job too long and forced myself to endure something I really didn't have to endure, not this time.

I like getting a paycheque for a job I can do easily, who wouldn't, but is it worth it when it's causing me to feel miserable? I'd love to be a person who is able to not even think about work unless they're there but I do admittedly, I struggle to get it off my mind a lot of the time. I just can't stand the two-facedness, people act fine to my face but clearly don't have nice opinions about me when I'm not there. I'm thinking of asking for less hours, the more I'm away from the place the better to be frank.

It's sad because I actually do have a fair bit going for me outside of there at the moment. Recently re-connected with some old friends, my bro has his own house and is always asking me round there, I have a lads holiday planned for next month with my best mate and to top it all the blues are doing well. It's just a shame I let my negative experiences to do with work define my overall mood, I want it to stop. I've gotten better than I was a few weeks ago because of the medication but I still don't feel fully at ease most of the time and that's all I want.

Hopefully we win tomorrow because that would be a brilliant pick me up, it definitely helped a few weeks ago when we thrashed City (right after getting the knock back by a girl). Going forward though I need to find a way to stay in a chilled frame of mind. I'm stick with the citalopram for the foreseeable future but the job has to change I feel, I don't want to be around those people any longer. It's a shame because not everyone is a bad egg, there's a few really decent people in there I get on with but they're not the people I have to spend most of shift with, that's the other lot. Gang of melons.

 

[Billy Dean]

Yeah mate, it's not worth it and I know it. I stayed in my last job too long and forced myself to endure something I really didn't have to endure, not this time.

I like getting a paycheque for a job I can do easily, who wouldn't, but is it worth it when it's causing me to feel miserable? I'd love to be a person who is able to not even think about work unless they're there but I do admittedly, I struggle to get it off my mind a lot of the time. I just can't stand the two-facedness, people act fine to my face but clearly don't have nice opinions about me when I'm not there. I'm thinking of asking for less hours, the more I'm away from the place the better to be frank.

It's sad because I actually do have a fair bit going for me outside of there at the moment. Recently re-connected with some old friends, my bro has his own house and is always asking me round there, I have a lads holiday planned for next month with my best mate and to top it all the blues are doing well. It's just a shame I let my negative experiences to do with work define my overall mood, I want it to stop. I've gotten better than I was a few weeks ago because of the medication but I still don't feel fully at ease most of the time and that's all I want.

Hopefully we win tomorrow because that would be a brilliant pick me up, it definitely helped a few weeks ago when we thrashed City (right after getting the knock back by a girl). Going forward though I need to find a way to stay in a chilled frame of mind. I'm stick with the citalopram for the foreseeable future but the job has to change I feel, I don't want to be around those people any longer. It's a shame because not everyone is a bad egg, there's a few really decent people in there I get on with but they're not the people I have to spend most of shift with, that's the other lot. Gang of melons.

Re focusing more on negative than positive things in your life, have you considered counseling? Some forms of therapy can help with that?

 

[EFCPaul]

Re focusing more on negative than positive things in your life, have you considered counseling? Some forms of therapy can help with that?

Had counseling a few years ago mate, it helped massively at the time and I'd like to have it again but as @Bryan has said, it can takes months upon months before they finally contact you. Going to call Talk Liverpool tomorrow though, I've seen them before and they helped a lot.

 

[cronullasharks]

Just realised its exactly a year since i was at my worst mentally and my wife had to rush me to the doctor. Can remember because it was the weekend of the Auckland 9's rugby league (which is on now) and remember getting home in the afternoon dosed up on valium watching it like a drone. Thought things would never get better but a year on i feel pretty good, though am weary of it happening again which i don't know if that's a good or bad thing as i don't want to become complacent.

 

[COYBL25]

Just realised its exactly a year since i was at my worst mentally and my wife had to rush me to the doctor. Can remember because it was the weekend of the Auckland 9's rugby league (which is on now) and remember getting home in the afternoon dosed up on valium watching it like a drone. Thought things would never get better but a year on i feel pretty good, though am weary of it happening again which i don't know if that's a good or bad thing as i don't want to become complacent.

If you're well now I wouldn't dwell on it mate.

If you start thinking about it all the time, you may subconsciously let it back in.

 

[Groucho]

Just realised its exactly a year since i was at my worst mentally and my wife had to rush me to the doctor. Can remember because it was the weekend of the Auckland 9's rugby league (which is on now) and remember getting home in the afternoon dosed up on valium watching it like a drone. Thought things would never get better but a year on i feel pretty good, though am weary of it happening again which i don't know if that's a good or bad thing as i don't want to become complacent.

Awareness is always good.

 

[wgtwiddle]

Downloaded Kindle, and found this book...

Dear Anxiety, this is my life.

It's free, I found it insightful and somewhat helpful. If you read it don't be alarmed by how it pans out at the start, it's all explained later on.

Sorry, can't seem to manage a URL for it.

 

[Groucho]

Downloaded Kindle, and found this book...

Dear Anxiety, this is my life.

It's free, I found it insightful and somewhat helpful. If you read it don't be alarmed by how it pans out at the start, it's all explained later on.

Sorry, can't seem to manage a URL for it.

Cheers I'm sure it can be googled mate.

 

[jaycee]

Anybody suffering anxiety/depression in Liverpool there is a support group for men starting up at the Bridge community centre on Daneville road

 

[shackattack]

Cheers I'm sure it can be googled mate.

You Can Fix Your Anxiety

www.youcanfixyouranxiety.com

 

[granter79]

Had counseling a few years ago mate, it helped massively at the time and I'd like to have it again but as @Bryan has said, it can takes months upon months before they finally contact you. Going to call Talk Liverpool tomorrow though, I've seen them before and they helped a lot.

I know over here in Ireland they do free counseling in places where you just make a donation. I am starting at the end of the month in our local recreation centre and its all qualified counselors too. I went before same sort of deal to a place connected to one of the churches over here so may also be worth looking into.
Think you doing really well pal. Just the work thing that needs changing 100%.

 

[Eggs]

Yeah mate, it's not worth it and I know it. I stayed in my last job too long and forced myself to endure something I really didn't have to endure, not this time.

I like getting a paycheque for a job I can do easily, who wouldn't, but is it worth it when it's causing me to feel miserable? I'd love to be a person who is able to not even think about work unless they're there but I do admittedly, I struggle to get it off my mind a lot of the time. I just can't stand the two-facedness, people act fine to my face but clearly don't have nice opinions about me when I'm not there. I'm thinking of asking for less hours, the more I'm away from the place the better to be frank.

It's sad because I actually do have a fair bit going for me outside of there at the moment. Recently re-connected with some old friends, my bro has his own house and is always asking me round there, I have a lads holiday planned for next month with my best mate and to top it all the blues are doing well. It's just a shame I let my negative experiences to do with work define my overall mood, I want it to stop. I've gotten better than I was a few weeks ago because of the medication but I still don't feel fully at ease most of the time and that's all I want.

Hopefully we win tomorrow because that would be a brilliant pick me up, it definitely helped a few weeks ago when we thrashed City (right after getting the knock back by a girl). Going forward though I need to find a way to stay in a chilled frame of mind. I'm stick with the citalopram for the foreseeable future but the job has to change I feel, I don't want to be around those people any longer. It's a shame because not everyone is a bad egg, there's a few really decent people in there I get on with but they're not the people I have to spend most of shift with, that's the other lot. Gang of melons.

...you spend a lot of time at work and whilst the vast majority of people would prefer to be elsewhere, it's important that it is tolerable. All I would say is try and ensure you have a new job before you leave your old one. Also, consider a change of career but also evaluate if it's the job you dislike or the people you work with.

 

[Ashtonian]

Back in my bubble again.

just an unwinnable situation now with work, literally trapped inside with little chance of getting out. I apply for other jobs and fail the interviews, even when i ace them simply for not having the experience, yet i have asked and my management won't or aren't too arsed about supporting me in getting the experience. So i can't leave for elsewhere and i can't do any more than i am in the job i am in now to be this hirable person. Just not too sure what else to do anymore.

Plus after all the little rush of interviews i have settled back into normal life and back to feeling isolated, even when trying to talk to someone i work with directly i get no response, but others from across the room do. I genuinely hate it here, and it makes it worse now i cannot leave. Just feels like no matter how good i am at my job (or beyond it) i just will never leave here in a department where mostly everyone just stays for years on end.

Just thinking out loud again, i know i have to get out, but i just feel helpless, those thoughts i was having a few weeks ago are slowly coming back again.