Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[GwladysBlue]

Do you have anyone close that you can talk to mate ?

Are taking any meds ?

What you describe is txt book depression.

It doesn't discriminate mate, rich or poor, young or old.

I haven't got anyone to talk to who I'd want to talk about this stuff to.

I've mentioned it before, my best mate of 12 years who I'd then started stupidly sleeping and then battered me is now completely out of my life. Except for odd texts.

He is the only person who ever managed to get me out of it. But that's covering old ground.

Took meds in the past and they just haven't worked. I stuck at them for ages and still nothing.

Absolutely everything is going right in work: I'm progressing in my career, I'm getting praised, etc. All stuff that would make people proud is nothing to me.

Been going the gym for months now and I'm now getting stronger, starting to see results. Even that has lost it's edge for me now.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Are you currently on medication mate?

No. I've took Venlafaxine and Sertraline in the past, and they just don't do anything for me.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Does your mum know mate, why not tell her the way your feeling at they moment, I'm sure she'd want to help

She knows what I'm like. As does my Dad.

There is only so much they can do. They just tell me all the things I'm doing well at, the things I have to look forward to, but they dont understand that it brings nothing to me.

 

[jaycee]

No. I've took Venlafaxine and Sertraline in the past, and they just don't do anything for me.

Go back to your GP without the meds you are going to really struggle my friend,take the same time every day and give them a chance if they ARENT working then go back,get the dosage changed,get a different script,its a case of finding what levels you out

 

[Groucho]

I even do things like deliberately not wear a seatbelt when driving.

This is something that concerns me.

I urge you to go back to see your GP ASAP. Go as a emergency, they will see you.

 

[COYBL25]

I haven't got anyone to talk to who I'd want to talk about this stuff to.

I've mentioned it before, my best mate of 12 years who I'd then started stupidly sleeping and then battered me is now completely out of my life. Except for odd texts.

He is the only person who ever managed to get me out of it. But that's covering old ground.

Took meds in the past and they just haven't worked. I stuck at them for ages and still nothing.

Absolutely everything is going right in work: I'm progressing in my career, I'm getting praised, etc. All stuff that would make people proud is nothing to me.

Been going the gym for months now and I'm now getting stronger, starting to see results. Even that has lost it's edge for me now.

Morning mate, how are you feeling today ?

 

[GwladysBlue]

This is something that concerns me.

I urge you to go back to see your GP ASAP. Go as a emergency, they will see you.

I think I'm going to have to. I'm going on a stag doo abroad in a couple of weeks, though, so I don't want to be taking anti-depressants whilst heavily drinking for a week.

I want counselling sessions back, but I don't want to go to Stella Nova again. It'll feel like I've failed my old therapist, and she was really good to me.

Morning mate, how are you feeling today ?

Morning mate. Not that great, I've got a lot of work to get through, though, so that'll keep me occupied.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Go back to your GP without the meds you are going to really struggle my friend,take the same time every day and give them a chance if they ARENT working then go back,get the dosage changed,get a different script,its a case of finding what levels you out

I think I'll have to give this a go when I get back from holiday.

I'd be drinking heavily and it isn't the best idea to start anti-depressants when on the ale.

 

[jaycee]

I think I'll have to give this a go when I get back from holiday.

I'd be drinking heavily and it isn't the best idea to start anti-depressants when on the ale.

No drink isnt the best thing at any time mate,but defo go back its a starting block,look at diet, exercise,meditation,start wearing your seatbelt as well
You say you dont care and it might end the pain,it doesnt end it,it just passes it on to your family

 

[matty1878]

Done all that, on quite a few occasions now.

The thing with therapy is, it can help, but it feels like it only helps for a short period of time afterwards.

My criticism of it is that after the final session,there is no follow-up in three or so months to see how everything is going. You're just expected to be cured.

My therapist even said that counselling isn't something that can be relied on forever. I feel like I'm going to need it forever.

I even do things like deliberately not wear a seatbelt when driving.

It's only my mum that keeps me going. She is one of the funniest, nicest people you could hope to meet. Her life doesn't deserve to be ruined because of me.

You need to find a middle ground mate ( easier said than done ) get your purpose back and feel good about yourself again go back your gp discuss your options ask to see cmht. Don't do nothing mate there's more to life then plodding along if you wanna talk mate I'm here anytime

 

[COYBL25]

I think I'm going to have to. I'm going on a stag doo abroad in a couple of weeks, though, so I don't want to be taking anti-depressants whilst heavily drinking for a week.

I want counselling sessions back, but I don't want to go to Stella Nova again. It'll feel like I've failed my old therapist, and she was really good to me.

Morning mate. Not that great, I've got a lot of work to get through, though, so that'll keep me occupied.

Bit Leftfield this, but have you thought about getting a dog ?

They're always there for you, love you unconditionally, don't judge and need walking everyday, which gets you out of the house.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Bit Leftfield this, but have you thought about getting a dog ?

They're always there for you, love you unconditionally, don't judge and need walking everyday, which gets you out of the house.

Got a dog, mate.

I do everything that people say do to help myself, I: go to the gym every day, walk the dog for miles, keep myself occupied.

People keep telling me how pleased I must be with myself, but I'm not.

 

[COYBL25]

Got a dog, mate.

I do everything that people say do to help myself, I: go to the gym every day, walk the dog for miles, keep myself occupied.

People keep telling me how pleased I must be with myself, but I'm not.

They're not inside your head mate, so what do know !

You say you're okay financially, how about paying for counselling ?

Goes against all my principles, but if it can speed things up for you, plus you wouldn't feel like you're betraying your old counsellor.

Maybe your mum couid go halves ?

 

[GwladysBlue]

They're not inside your head mate, so what do know !

You say you're okay financially, how about paying for counselling ?

Goes against all my principles, but if it can speed things up for you, plus you wouldn't feel like you're betraying your old counsellor.

Maybe your mum couid go halves ?

The thing with counselling, as I said above, there never seems to be any follow up.

The leeches that do it by the hour charge anywhere from £25-£60 p/h.

At least with the NHS ones you know they've gone into a career because they care. The private practice ones would feel like they're just there for the money.

I would have loved my ones at Access Sefton to have just carried on forever, but I suppose it is defeating the object of needing it I the first place.

 

[brieverton]

The thing with counselling, as I said above, there never seems to be any follow up.

The leeches that do it by the hour charge anywhere from £25-£60 p/h.

At least with the NHS ones you know they've gone into a career because they care. The private practice ones would feel like they're just there for the money.

I would have loved my ones at Access Sefton to have just carried on forever, but I suppose it is defeating the object of needing it I the first place.

I would recommend seeing your GP too mate. If s/he is in any way decent, you should at least have the opportunity to let things out without necessarily feeling an obligation to get a "result", as you have suggested would be the case with a counsellor. Paradoxically, that might be a good thing.

I remember once a former work colleague saying that we all have to have "something on the horizon" to look forward to, be it however small or however far off in time.

Give yourself plenty of time and space and be your own best mate. But do discuss your feelings with your GP. Sometimes in life its just immensely difficult to see the wood from the trees, and find again people and/or things that inspire and enthuse us.