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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

GwladysBlue said:
@Billy Dean how did the visit to the GP go, mate? Hope you’re feeling a bit better now.
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Thanks for asking mate. He took my blood and I got the results yesterday. My blood came back the same as it always is when he takes it, so he reckons all my physical ailments are down to stress/anxiety, which is good in a way (if true). He said I should see a specialist just so they can check but he's doubtful there's anything seriously wrong with me. Off too see the specialist on Weds next week.

My anxiety peaked yesterday. The night before last night I weighed myself for the first time since my operation and was shocked at how much weight I'd lost. I was totally freaking out. Luckily by chance I had an appointment with my counsellor who I'd been seeing for a bit of help with social anxiety and chatting to her helped me lay things out in a rational way. Then I got home and got to thinking that I should have closure on this on Weds and it seems that given my blood results there's nothing badly wrong with me and I'm just processing a traumatic event and then my anxiety levels dropped quite a lot. I got about 9 hours sleep last night which is my first night in a week that I got more than 4 hours. Today so far I'm feeling much less anxious (touch wood it continues).
 
Billy Dean said:
Thanks for asking mate. He took my blood and I got the results yesterday. My blood came back the same as it always is when he takes it, so he reckons all my physical ailments are down to stress/anxiety, which is good in a way (if true). He said I should see a specialist just so they can check but he's doubtful there's anything seriously wrong with me. Off too see the specialist on Weds next week.

My anxiety peaked yesterday. The night before last night I weighed myself for the first time since my operation and was shocked at how much weight I'd lost. I was totally freaking out. Luckily by chance I had an appointment with my counsellor who I'd been seeing for a bit of help with social anxiety and chatting to her helped me lay things out in a rational way. Then I got home and got to thinking that I should have closure on this on Weds and it seems that given my blood results there's nothing badly wrong with me and I'm just processing a traumatic event and then my anxiety levels dropped quite a lot. I got about 9 hours sleep last night which is my first night in a week that I got more than 4 hours. Today so far I'm feeling much less anxious (touch wood it continues).
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That's great news, mate. Hopefully the specialist puts all your worries to bed next week and you can start moving forward;)
 
SiEdmo said:
Just thought id pop in to see whats going on as im having a really bad time of it myself at the minute, managed to get a hold on my depression/anger/stuck in a rut feeling, but we have a baby on the way, and im really worried that my head is going to mess me up and I wont care about the baby

when I found out we were expecting again (we lost one the first time) I have not been anything but hesitant to get excited for fear of it going wrong, now she is going on 6 months pregnant, I can finally start to think about it going right and having a new addition soon, but now as I said, I have irrational thoughts that im not going to bond/care about him

ive made an appointment at the docs (second time ive ever seeked professional help) and really hope I don't get palmed off with some internet PDF self help guides like last time

anyone else had anything similar go on?
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We lost two babies before we had our little girl (now 2) and we've have a little boy due in March. When they are born it's like a switch is flicked in your head, it changed me in an instant and they just become the center of your world. The difficulty us dad's have during pregnancy is it's not really possible to form a bond with the baby whereas mum already has because she's carrying him/her.

The other advice I would give is don't be too hard on yourself. It's a lot of pressure being a dad. I suffer with anxiety and got really low this summer. Felt like I was no good to anyone. Get yourself to the GP and get some support. Also counselling really helped me.

Good luck mate.
 
Jo3Fr3sh said:
So I was wondering if anyone has experience with intense anxiety/depersonalization. Going through the weeds currently.
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I have been dealing with anxiety for about 10 years. It got really bad earlier this year and I was having almost daily anxiety attacks. Work itself wasn't causing them but I was having attacks at work. I firstly went to the GP and got back on my medication. Counselling is what made the real difference though. It turned out a lot of my thought processes were distorted, being aware of this helped me to make some changes.

Are there any particular situations that trigger anxiety for you?
 

I’ve got a depressive phase coming on. I know it’s coming and I can’t prevent it. I hate everyone don’t wanna be near anyone I’ve isolated myself for ages and it’s the only comfort I get. But In that itself it’s starting to alter my thinking I know anxiety is feeding it and I’m trying to change my thoughts but it’s still hard as I have a mental illness and when it comes it’s like it’s out of my control. My cpn knows and my ot, I see them weekly but at the moment nothing is changing these dark thoughts. I’ve gotta keep trying
 
matty1878 said:
I’ve got a depressive phase coming on. I know it’s coming and I can’t prevent it. I hate everyone don’t wanna be near anyone I’ve isolated myself for ages and it’s the only comfort I get. But In that itself it’s starting to alter my thinking I know anxiety is feeding it and I’m trying to change my thoughts but it’s still hard as I have a mental illness and when it comes it’s like it’s out of my control. My cpn knows and my ot, I see them weekly but at the moment nothing is changing these dark thoughts. I’ve gotta keep trying
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Are you just staying at home stewing on things matty ? Because i find getting out of the house and doing something simple like going for a walk can help.
 
matty1878 said:
I’ve got a depressive phase coming on. I know it’s coming and I can’t prevent it. I hate everyone don’t wanna be near anyone I’ve isolated myself for ages and it’s the only comfort I get. But In that itself it’s starting to alter my thinking I know anxiety is feeding it and I’m trying to change my thoughts but it’s still hard as I have a mental illness and when it comes it’s like it’s out of my control. My cpn knows and my ot, I see them weekly but at the moment nothing is changing these dark thoughts. I’ve gotta keep trying
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Just thinking out loud Matty.

What triggers the attacks ?

The way I manage mine, is by avoiding or managing situations that I know are gonna kick it off, like when my disgusting in laws staying over Christmas.

( I planned loads of long walks with the dog, so I knew I could escape at some point every day and it wouldn`t be obvious, as the dog needed walking regardless )

Also have you tried aerobic excericise ?

It really is what keeps the lid on my anxiety.

I was quite bad this morning due to the match last night and not sleeping properly as a result.

I`ve just done an hour long run and my anxiety has totally gone.
 

COYBL25 said:
Just thinking out loud Matty.

What triggers the attacks ?

The way I manage mine, is by avoiding or managing situations that I know are gonna kick it off, like when my disgusting in laws staying over Christmas.

( I planned loads of long walks with the dog, so I knew I could escape at some point every day and it wouldn`t be obvious, as the dog needed walking regardless )

Also have you tried aerobic excericise ?

It really is what keeps the lid on my anxiety.

I was quite bad this morning due to the match last night and not sleeping properly as a result.

I`ve just done an hour long run and my anxiety has totally gone.
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Tough one Mate I know it comes and as much as I try to occupy myself it eventually gets me and then I’m in it for a while.
 
matty1878 said:
Tough one Mate I know it comes and as much as I try to occupy myself it eventually gets me and then I’m in it for a while.
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Everton are not helping you at the moment either mate. It's all too negative I think. I have posted here on how I have been struggling but I have tried to stop doing things that make me unhappy. It's not easy but it is better.
 
I'm starting to think environment plays a huge role in the onset of depression. When I'm in work I'm a different person to at home. When I'm out I am the same as in work. I have no problem talking to people I come across as a confident person and its not an act I put on its how I was before it all started. But then I go home and I morph back into the self hating lazy analytical bellend, overthinking stuff etc. It happens the same when I'm with certain people from the past I go back in to my shell.
Anyone I've met in the last couple of years would be suprised to find out I have been a illness.
 
matty1878 said:
Tough one Mate I know it comes and as much as I try to occupy myself it eventually gets me and then I’m in it for a while.
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Can you distract yourself from it or does it overpower everything? I've been there. Its when little things set me off that I know it's coming.

Writing it down on a4 works for me. Then read it back a bit later and burn it. It's a real therapy method I was put on and it's works for the minor things for me. The bigger problems are far more rooted so take more than that.
 
the golden visionary said:
I'm starting to think environment plays a huge role in the onset of depression. When I'm in work I'm a different person to at home. When I'm out I am the same as in work. I have no problem talking to people I come across as a confident person and its not an act I put on its how I was before it all started. But then I go home and I morph back into the self hating lazy analytical bellend, overthinking stuff etc. It happens the same when I'm with certain people from the past I go back in to my shell.
Anyone I've met in the last couple of years would be suprised to find out I have been a illness.
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A lot of sufferers are like this mate :

Public Face.

Private Face.

It`s an act you put on, to hide the fact that anything is wrong.
 

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