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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

hallamblue said:
Unfortunately mum has had another setback. She was doing a lot of breathing on her own but has succumbed to a chest infection again as she is so weak. I traveled over from Sheffield and back to see her today and had a long chat with one of the doctors. For the first time they were talking about what might happen if things don't go right this time. Quality of life, secondary problems etc, basically she was close to refusing treatment but has agreed to give it another try. Things are looking fairly bleak for her. It's so hard to see a strong and dignified woman basically trapped in a failing body.
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I am sorry to hear that, Words are of little solace but stay strong and keep hope mate.
 
hallamblue said:
Unfortunately mum has had another setback. She was doing a lot of breathing on her own but has succumbed to a chest infection again as she is so weak. I traveled over from Sheffield and back to see her today and had a long chat with one of the doctors. For the first time they were talking about what might happen if things don't go right this time. Quality of life, secondary problems etc, basically she was close to refusing treatment but has agreed to give it another try. Things are looking fairly bleak for her. It's so hard to see a strong and dignified woman basically trapped in a failing body.
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Sorry matey.
 
efcforever said:
I have been dealing with anxiety for about 10 years. It got really bad earlier this year and I was having almost daily anxiety attacks. Work itself wasn't causing them but I was having attacks at work. I firstly went to the GP and got back on my medication. Counselling is what made the real difference though. It turned out a lot of my thought processes were distorted, being aware of this helped me to make some changes.

Are there any particular situations that trigger anxiety for you?
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Work. It's not what I want to do; pays the bills. The people I work with are horrible people. Basically, I've been given the cold shoulder for months. I sit in a silent room with others. Not the best way to live.
 
Jo3Fr3sh said:
Work. It's not what I want to do; pays the bills. The people I work with are horrible people. Basically, I've been given the cold shoulder for months. I sit in a silent room with others. Not the best way to live.
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Sounds difficult mate. Any scope to change jobs? I know it's not always simple. You need to find something that fits in with your lifestyle and pays well enough.
 
hallamblue said:
Unfortunately mum has had another setback. She was doing a lot of breathing on her own but has succumbed to a chest infection again as she is so weak. I traveled over from Sheffield and back to see her today and had a long chat with one of the doctors. For the first time they were talking about what might happen if things don't go right this time. Quality of life, secondary problems etc, basically she was close to refusing treatment but has agreed to give it another try. Things are looking fairly bleak for her. It's so hard to see a strong and dignified woman basically trapped in a failing body.
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Its very hard. I know through us having nursed Mum here on tube feed, catheter paralysed etc etc. Dont lose heart though..your strength will be hers. As quickly as they can fall prey to infections, they can suddenly bounce back and surprise even the best doctors. Mum was written off (kindly) in hospital about 4/5 times over long stays...under Not For Resus etc and though frail toughed it out. So dont despair...your visit might give her the impetus to fight back. Make sure you also have people around you who are positive and can raise you up a little. Youre doing your best and thats the main thing.
 

Jacob said:
Its very hard. I know through us having nursed Mum here on tube feed, catheter paralysed etc etc. Dont lose heart though..your strength will be hers. As quickly as they can fall prey to infections, they can suddenly bounce back and surprise even the best doctors. Mum was written off (kindly) in hospital about 4/5 times over long stays...under Not For Resus etc and though frail toughed it out. So dont despair...your visit might give her the impetus to fight back. Make sure you also have people around you who are positive and can raise you up a little. Youre doing your best and thats the main thing.
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Thanks for the reply, it's very helpful. Mum has always been the strong one, so it's difficult to deal with dad, who is 82 and has had mental health problems. We've got carers in for him, and I'm getting across when I can. I've also told him that if she doesn't make it we will bring him to live near us so he won't be alone. I know I'm doing all I can, but I still feel powerless. I know if my mum could see herself she'd probably unplug the machine, as she has always hated weakness.
 
hallamblue said:
Thanks for the reply, it's very helpful. Mum has always been the strong one, so it's difficult to deal with dad, who is 82 and has had mental health problems. We've got carers in for him, and I'm getting across when I can. I've also told him that if she doesn't make it we will bring him to live near us so he won't be alone. I know I'm doing all I can, but I still feel powerless. I know if my mum could see herself she'd probably unplug the machine, as she has always hated weakness.
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Feeling powerless is totally normal in the circumstances...because we are in the face of very serious illness. Were not miracle workers. I often felt the same. Towards the end, after a couple of years here I felt like running ...and running and never stopping. But I didnt. Powerless again see....but not, in a strange way, as strong enough to stick it out. Your Mum sounds a fighter like ours...old school...get on with it however bad it gets. She will go when shes ready. Youre doing both your Mum and your Dad proud. Never forget that.
 


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