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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

efcforever said:
You'll feel better after talking to the doctor. Like a weight has been lifted.

Is there anyone at home you can speak to?
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I’ve got family close by but even talking about it doesn’t help, I can’t go on in these cycles it’s no life whatsoever. I don’t know were I am mentally from one day to the next. I feel suffocated with fear and dread. It goes then comes back harder. Life is hard for us all I suppose l
 
FC sexy xxx said:
I’ve got family close by but even talking about it doesn’t help, I can’t go on in these cycles it’s no life whatsoever. I don’t know were I am mentally from one day to the next. I feel suffocated with fear and dread. It goes then comes back harder. Life is hard for us all I suppose l
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Hopefully your GP can start to get things back on an even keel for you tomorrow mate, maybe refer you for counselling too ?
 
AmericasToffee said:
Diaphragmatic breathing helps with mindfulness. Focus on your breath for a while and then other things will follow suit.

https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/uz2255

https://www.stress.org/take-a-deep-breath/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind...th-control-helps-quell-errant-stress-response
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I suffer from panic attacks
AmericasToffee said:
Diaphragmatic breathing helps with mindfulness. Focus on your breath for a while and then other things will follow suit.

https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/uz2255

https://www.stress.org/take-a-deep-breath/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind...th-control-helps-quell-errant-stress-response
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put your hands under the cold tap for a few mins buddy ,always works for me if iam over thinking or getting a panic attack ,hope its helps
 

EFCPaul said:
Recently decided to come off my medication entirely. Been on it the best part of 2 years but over the past few months I began to take them less frequently and about 2 weeks ago I stopped completely, felt it was time to give it a proper go and see the results. Hasn't been easy, had some low days for sure, but it hasn't been as bad as I imagined. I have some in my house in case of a massive nosedive and I need to return to them but for now I'm seeing how long I go without them and if I can keep it that permanently.

Still had days of anxiety and restlessness, likely related to what I mentioned above. Letting small things bother me quite a lot, being a little bit snappy at people and less upbeat. Nothing major, just not exactly spending all day smiling or feeling at ease. Still wrestling with the same old anxietes, where am I going in life, why does nothing ever seem to go right, why do people I don't feel have as much to offer me seem to get ahead quicker, why can't I get excited for anything?

Meh, life sucks a lot of time, doesn't feel like it's worth living. Hopefully something comes along soon because I'm REALLY fed up and felt the way before I decided to come off the tablets.
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As long as you know went to go back on them. Maybe the break off them will do you good if they seemed like they weren't working properly then maybe the contrast from taking to not taking may show they were benefiting you in some ways. In the meantime I would go back to your Dr as they need to know if it's no longer doing the job so they can try alternatives.

As for your feelings you sound like me and a few others on here I would guess. The more down you feel the worse it gets. An occasional good day is sometimes more a hindrance as it makes you realise what your missing. Always remember your worth as much as the next person.
 
messymascot said:
As long as you know went to go back on them. Maybe the break off them will do you good if they seemed like they weren't working properly then maybe the contrast from taking to not taking may show they were benefiting you in some ways. In the meantime I would go back to your Dr as they need to know if it's no longer doing the job so they can try alternatives.

As for your feelings you sound like me and a few others on here I would guess. The more down you feel the worse it gets. An occasional good day is sometimes more a hindrance as it makes you realise what your missing. Always remember your worth as much as the next person.
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Just so, so fed up mate. Life isn't horrible, I'm hardly living in Syria with bombs going off around me, just I'm so bored at the state of things. Badly want to things to change, experience something a bit different. Right now I'm struggling to get up for anything.
 
EFCPaul said:
Just so, so fed up mate. Life isn't horrible, I'm hardly living in Syria with bombs going off around me, just I'm so bored at the state of things. Badly want to things to change, experience something a bit different. Right now I'm struggling to get up for anything.
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I know exactly what you mean. I'm out of work but can't even motivate myself to apply for jobs. I got made redundant knew it was happening for 3 years but sat in my comfort zone. I hate change but that's exactly what I needed then and still need now.

I try and look at things in a positive manner but it's difficult at times as sometimes you can't see the obvious when your in the depths. I try not to advise too much as I always feel it sounds a bit rich coming from me but have you tried pinpointing what it is in your life you don't like. I've come to the thinking with myself that it's that lack of someone special but I know that isn't the same for everyone in this situation.
 
messymascot said:
I know exactly what you mean. I'm out of work but can't even motivate myself to apply for jobs. I got made redundant knew it was happening for 3 years but sat in my comfort zone. I hate change but that's exactly what I needed then and still need now.

I try and look at things in a positive manner but it's difficult at times as sometimes you can't see the obvious when your in the depths. I try not to advise too much as I always feel it sounds a bit rich coming from me but have you tried pinpointing what it is in your life you don't like. I've come to the thinking with myself that it's that lack of someone special but I know that isn't the same for everyone in this situation.
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Relate completely mate. I'm working right now but the job doesn't have much legs in it at all, it could honestly go any time after Christmas and I've known that for months now but only this week finally been pro-active in looking for something else so hopefully I can walk before being pushed.

Being single, especially when young and full of hormones, can be frustrating and disheartening. Everyone wants to be wanted by someone else and to be able to have the person you desire but I have come to realise that often being in a relationship for the sake of it isn't a good thing.

There's a perfect example in my job, a girl my age has been with her fella for about 6 months but every day she comes in and tells us all about how much of a crank he is. Reads her private messages, kicks her out his house at all hours of the night, makes her take down her social media, goes mad if she has any lad mates. She says this to all of us, her work mates, and I personally I sit there "Why are you even with a divvy like that?"

Someone actually did ask her once and she didn't give a straight answer, just mumbled and changed the subject. Clearly she's not in love with him but feels she needs the relationship to feel better about herself. Feel sorry for her but it's her life and her choices. It made me think though, how bloody horrible must it be to be with someone who treats you like that and yet always go crawling back to them because you don't have the confidence to tell them to F off out your life? No way. It's better being single and waiting for the perfect person and circumstances to come along than to just give yourself to any old idiot.

It's hard staying optimistic that person or a boss situation will ever arrive for us but we've got to keep going. Stay in touch. :)
 
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EFCPaul said:
Relate completely mate. I'm working right now but the job doesn't have much legs in it at all, it could honestly go any time after Christmas and I've known that for months now but only this week finally been pro-active in looking for something else so hopefully I can walk before being pushed.

Being single, especially when young and full of hormones, can be frustrating and disheartening. Everyone wants to be wanted by someone else and to be able to have the person you desire but I have come to realise that often being in a relationship for the sake of it isn't a good thing.

There's a perfect example in my job, a girl my age has been with her fella for about 6 months but every day she comes in and tells us all about how much of a crank he is. Reads her private messages, kicks her out his house at all hours of the night, makes her take down her social media, goes mad if she has any lad mates. She says this to all of us, her work mates, and I personally I sit there "Why are you even with a divvy like that?"

Someone actually did ask her once and she didn't give a straight answer, just mumbled and changed the subject. Clearly she's not in love with him but feels she needs the relationship to feel better about herself. Feel sorry for her but it's her life and her choices. It made me think though, how bloody horrible must it be to be with someone who treats you like that and yet always go crawling back to them because you don't have the confidence to tell them to F off out your life? No way. It's better being single and waiting for the perfect person and circumstances to come along than to just give yourself to any old idiot.

It's hard staying optimistic that person or a boss situation will ever arrive for us but we've got to keep going. Stay in touch. :)
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I could never be with someone for the sake of it as you've described above it would be worse than being alone.

Your right keeping going is exactly what we and everyone else has to believe. It sounds cliched but I suppose this is merely just a phase.

Keep us informed on how you get on and remember going back on the meds is not failing but if you can escape them all the better!
 

Echo what @AmericasToffee was saying about the therapeutic power of simply breathing.

There are many people doing breath therapy these days, many are pretty similar - Transformational Breath is one of the big ones. There is an intro session on in Manchester tomorrow: https://www.transformationalbreath....o-transformational-breathr-with-alan-purves-2

Once you have learned the technique (not hard), it's obviously free as in air - great for de-stressing and also lifting mood, as you basically get an oxygen high off it.

The guy that I have worked with trained with TB originally and now has his own practice - and an app which has how-to instructions etc.: http://app.breathguru.com/
 
FC sexy xxx said:
I’ve got family close by but even talking about it doesn’t help, I can’t go on in these cycles it’s no life whatsoever. I don’t know were I am mentally from one day to the next. I feel suffocated with fear and dread. It goes then comes back harder. Life is hard for us all I suppose l
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Sorry for the late reply...I was in a bad place last year. Waking up and feeling anxious straight away, breaking down and having panic attacks. A combination of medication and counselling really helped and now I feel generally well. It gets better mate. Keep posting.
 

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