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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Macker07 said:
Hope your okay?
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Hi all,

Thanks Macker for checking in.

Had a heart monitor for the last few weeks, CT Contrast, heart ultrasound and a battery of more tests and all I know for now is my heart is arrhythmic, but stable in its arrhythmia. Make it make sense!?

I am down $2800 and counting, though I should be grateful I'm both alive and not counting the "actual" bill whichhnis somewhere in the 15-20k range(!). In some ways I just want an answer and in other ways I'm worried what the answer is. So, I'll hold out for my Christmas Eve Eve appt and hope for the best. Either way I'll be taking it easy on the mince pies and trying to appreciate the holidays with my family.

anjelikaferrett said:
Hi guys. I want to apologise for ignoring this thread recently- it is one of the most beautiful places on the Internet, never mind GOT. There's been a lot going on this year. I can categorically say that 2024 has been the worst year of my life to date. In March, my 31 year old son, was diagnosed with Stage 3 malignant melanoma. It started in January as what looked like a bite on his ankle - not a dodgy mole, a pink mark. So he ignored it for a while until it started oozing. He went to his GP who gave him antibiotics, it got no better so he went back. This time he got a referral to dermatology who did a biopsy but said not to worry, it was fine - a benign granuloma. Unfortunately it wasn't. The melanoma had spread to the lymph nodes in his groin. In April, he had a big operation to remove the melanoma from his ankle and the affected lymph nodes in his groin. After that he started immunotherapy as a preventative measure because even though all the post op scans were clear, melanoma has a nasty habit of coming back. He had two lots of treatment but has had to pause it because he's getting side effects - mad crazy itching and a rash. However the good news is that they now seem to be under control and he's looking to restart his treatment in a couple of weeks. He also got married in May and although we all had a lovely day, everything has been overshadowed by this. I feel so sorry for them- they should be enjoying life as a newly married couple but instead it has all been hospitals and treatment.
As for me, my mental wellbeing has been a roller coaster I've cried so much, I've been angry at how unfair life is and I literally could not speak about it. I told my boss via email and told him that was the only way I could communicate with him. He was a star, offered me as much time off as I wanted to. I declined the offer - work kept me distracted and forced me to think (ie imagine the worst case scenarios) about other things. It has truly been an experience I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Things are currently heading in tne right direction but every scan, every test gives you those horrible feelings that it might not be good news.
In amongst all this we sold my Dad's house. Really was the end of an era and both my brother andI who were Dad's executors, found it far more emotional than we expected. Family home since 1977, getting rid of all his stuff. It was tough.
I genuinely can't wait for 2024 to do one.
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As for you, it's very telling that given the maelstrom of your 2024 one of your returning acts was to thank everyone for their contributions in this thread and apologise for not being here yourself. You've had so much on your plate (and still do) and so I just wanted to say we are here for you, like you've been for many more before, and, while we can't necessarily "know what you're going through", you mean a lot to folks here.

While it may be easy to say "New Year, New You", I will be hoping for "New Year, Same you, more light for you and your family". Doesn't quite have the same ring to it but I do hope the worst is behind you and your family 💙
 
BigDunc'sFod said:
Hi all,

Thanks Macker for checking in.

Had a heart monitor for the last few weeks, CT Contrast, heart ultrasound and a battery of more tests and all I know for now is my heart is arrhythmic, but stable in its arrhythmia. Make it make sense!?

I am down $2800 and counting, though I should be grateful I'm both alive and not counting the "actual" bill whichhnis somewhere in the 15-20k range(!). In some ways I just want an answer and in other ways I'm worried what the answer is. So, I'll hold out for my Christmas Eve Eve appt and hope for the best. Either way I'll be taking it easy on the mince pies and trying to appreciate the holidays with my family.


As for you, it's very telling that given the maelstrom of your 2024 one of your returning acts was to thank everyone for their contributions in this thread and apologise for not being here yourself. You've had so much on your plate (and still do) and so I just wanted to say we are here for you, like you've been for many more before, and, while we can't necessarily "know what you're going through", you mean a lot to folks here.

While it may be easy to say "New Year, New You", I will be hoping for "New Year, Same you, more light for you and your family". Doesn't quite have the same ring to it but I do hope the worst is behind you and your family 💙
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My husband also has arrymthmia, first diagnosed some twenty years ago during a medical at work. He was prescribed a blood thinner as apparently his arrhythmia makes him more at risk of a blood clot otherwise he was told to carry on as normal. Best wishes for a favourable outcome for your Christmas Eve appointment.💙
 

I hadn't been for a run in a week and a half, which is ages for me. I had been well anxious and I couldn't really work out why, I went for a run today and it all pretty disappeared.

I had no idea how much it kept me feeling good really, it's crazy. A bit worrying that maybe running papers over things but I guess that the same time there is no healthier way to cure it
 
coollino said:
I hadn't been for a run in a week and a half, which is ages for me. I had been well anxious and I couldn't really work out why, I went for a run today and it all pretty disappeared.

I had no idea how much it kept me feeling good really, it's crazy. A bit worrying that maybe running papers over things but I guess that the same time there is no healthier way to cure it
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I'm exactly the same. Going for a run relaxes me and clears my head. When I do 3 runs a week I feel fit and good. If I miss one it hangs over me
 
coollino said:
I hadn't been for a run in a week and a half, which is ages for me. I had been well anxious and I couldn't really work out why, I went for a run today and it all pretty disappeared.

I had no idea how much it kept me feeling good really, it's crazy. A bit worrying that maybe running papers over things but I guess that the same time there is no healthier way to cure it
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It's a well established scientific principle that ANY form of exercise, especially cardio-related, blitzes the brain with endomorphins which, in turn, aids a sense of wellbeing. So whether it's pounding the streets, cross country, road/off road/static cycling or swimming then it should be encouraged. And also use this time not to dwell on your worries but, instead, to concentrate on your surroundings and the physicalities of what you are doing and what you feel bodily wise.

It will also help you sleep better.
 

blue to the bone said:
Time of the year when a lot of people struggle. Not a huge fan personally either. Don't be afraid to share here anyone that's struggling or just need to chat.
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Can’t wait for it to be over, for some (most?) it’s a time full of expense and stress, for me it’s full of anguish and sadness as I’m exposed to the realities of homelessness in Liverpool, I try my best and I’m enjoying it but the fact we can feed over a 100 families in the single locality is testament to just how much people are struggling. I hate Christmas for its excess but I love Christmas for its togetherness.
 
blue to the bone said:
Time of the year when a lot of people struggle. Not a huge fan personally either. Don't be afraid to share here anyone that's struggling or just need to chat.
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As an ex- Jehovahs Witness, 65 day clean alcoholic and drug addict, this was the worse time for me. I also have a dual diagnosis, severe depression.

This year I worked on rewriting my script of Xmas. Having to play LOL dolls with my youngest granddaughter was humbling, and reminded me what this time of year is about. Hope everyone has a safe evening if your partying. Early night watching Netflix/Prime for me. Happy New Year to all.
 

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