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Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

peteblue said:
Well the NHS bed arrives tomorrow morning. They tried to deliver it today but of course I was already at the hospital and my son in work. My wife looks pretty well back to her normal state, the mucus cough has gone, so now it’s about getting her mobile again. The nurse said they still haven’t a start date for an outside carer, but I said don’t worry about that as I’ve been doing it so far anyway and I don’t want anything holding up or getting in the way of her release from hospital. It was lovely today as the physiotherapist was with me while I walked with Kay up and down the ward. She then said to come and sit in two seats she had arranged and four nurses stood in front of us and played the guitar and sang Christmas Carols especially for my wife who was mouthing the words. Patients and staff from the ward all started to turn up and video it. It was beautiful……..
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That's so lovely. I remember being at an evening with Dennis Skinner( I know he's not your thing but bear with me!) He was talking about how he used to sing with his Mum who had dementia. He said she was always singing when he was a kid so when he visited her he would sing the songs she used to. She would join in and remember all the words, even though she didn't know who he was. He felt a connection with her through singing I thought it was such a nice story. Apparently it is to do with your long term memory.
 
Good evening everybody. How is it going? Chris rang me today to tell me that he restarts his treatment on Monday. That is good news. Hopefully no more side effects this time.
We did the Christmas food shop tonight. Not a fun experience- far too many people but it is done now and our cupboards and freezer are full.
Tesco are selling loads of veg for 15p with a Club card. Bags of potatoes, carrots, sprouts. Well worth a visit.
 
anjelikaferrett said:
That's so lovely. I remember being at an evening with Dennis Skinner( I know he's not your thing but bear with me!) He was talking about how he used to sing with his Mum who had dementia. He said she was always singing when he was a kid so when he visited her he would sing the songs she used to. She would join in and remember all the words, even though she didn't know who he was. He felt a connection with her through singing I thought it was such a nice story. Apparently it is to do with your long term memory.
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Actually I always liked Dennis Skinner, an honest politician. But they do say that music is a good link to the past and I must try it more often……
 
anjelikaferrett said:
Good evening everybody. How is it going? Chris rang me today to tell me that he restarts his treatment on Monday. That is good news. Hopefully no more side effects this time.
We did the Christmas food shop tonight. Not a fun experience- far too many people but it is done now and our cupboards and freezer are full.
Tesco are selling loads of veg for 15p with a Club card. Bags of potatoes, carrots, sprouts. Well worth a visit.
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We’ve done no shopping, I’ve bought no presents, Christmas will just come and go this year. I just want my wife back, everything else is somewhat irrelevant this year I’m afraid, sorry to be such Scrooge like as I’ve always loved and enjoyed Christmas……..
 
peteblue said:
We’ve done no shopping, I’ve bought no presents, Christmas will just come and go this year. I just want my wife back, everything else is somewhat irrelevant this year I’m afraid, sorry to be such Scrooge like as I’ve always loved and enjoyed Christmas……..
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Far more important for you to be together Pete .Kay coming home will be all you want ,remember to sing with her .You could put some Welsh male voice choir on youtube ,that stirs my soul I do love the harmonies .On a side note wales and Finland both suffer a shortages of choir singers one of bass ( wales ) and one of tenors (Finland )
 

peteblue said:
We’ve done no shopping, I’ve bought no presents, Christmas will just come and go this year. I just want my wife back, everything else is somewhat irrelevant this year I’m afraid, sorry to be such Scrooge like as I’ve always loved and enjoyed Christmas……..
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Totally understandable. Does Kay love Christmas too? If she does, maybe you could put a Christmas tree up as a surprise for her when she comes home or some sparkly lights - all girls love a bit of sparkle! 💙
 
peteblue said:
Well I’m sat in the hospital, but my wife is fast asleep. The bed arrived first thing this morning and it’s now assembled. I’ve bought a number of grab rails for around the house which I’ll fit when I get home. Still no word as to when she can be let out though…..
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If the bed has been delivered you would think she is out this weekend. Hopefully today or Sunday but not Saturday if you are the superstitious type.
 

peteblue said:
Thanks guys, I gave this some serious thought overnight. Anyway today they had put her in a different ward and the new physio people were really pushing for a care plan, to be put in place immediately as you all suggested.Anyway, they are going to arrange for a bed to be installed downstairs and for a carer to call in each morning for washing etc which will keep her ‘in the system’. We agreed it would be quicker if I arranged the installation and fitting of suitable handrails.

See, I do take note of comments in here…..
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Pete. Although you may decide to get a care package in, something tells me that you'll still have done half the stuff on their list by the time they turn up. :lol:

Great to hear Kay is close to coming home though. But from experience it may take a little longer than you'd wish for as they don't take any chances and will want everything right before they release her. Made up for you though mate.💙
 
peteblue said:
No, they keep mentioning it but nothing concrete. We will not need it to begin with but I asked for a number of contact details for when we do. One of the nurses was checking on how to get a blue badge as her mobility will no doubt begin to degrade. First of all I’ve got to get her home and back into the routines that have worked so well so far. Then I can make a decision to either sell the house and find the perfect place or spend money on building ground floor bathrooms, putting in lifts etc. I’d bought a wonderful penthouse with lifts years ago, in the middle of our local town that we used for weekends, meals etc, and that would have been perfect for the situation we are now in, but my wife really didn’t want to leave our house and village so after ten years or so we sold it. A major mistake on my part I’m afraid……
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Blue badge may be difficult to get for dementia patients Pete. We tried to get one for Cal's mum (Cal was her carer) but failed twice even though she qualified for the higher level of attendance allowance. Flo didn't live with us though so maybe that had an effect.
 
peteblue said:
We’ve done no shopping, I’ve bought no presents, Christmas will just come and go this year. I just want my wife back, everything else is somewhat irrelevant this year I’m afraid, sorry to be such Scrooge like as I’ve always loved and enjoyed Christmas……..
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Even though we usually cruised for Christmas itself, the lead up would involve numerous visits to stately homes, Christmas markets, garden centres, putting up the tree and deckies, and various other festive activities. I don't do any of that now and I do miss it if I'm being honest. But I still enjoy Christmas, just in a different way. Being Scrooge just doesn't come into it Pete, so no need to apologise to anybody.
 

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