Your self confidence goes and the more you avoid people, the worse it gets. It’s a vicious cycle mate.
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Your self confidence goes and the more you avoid people, the worse it gets. It’s a vicious cycle mate.
Blue, by the sound of it, it sounds like it's about getting a balance. Your " I like it....because I can shut people out " comment is what struck me. Do we all like a " I just want to chill, not think, relax " moment and the answer is yes. It's when there is no variation, nothing to break that same today, same tomorrow same same same ". You begin to think, is that it. Is THIS what my life's about. Going back to my " I just want to chill ", well, I only feel like that when I've been occupied, busy. It's then I think " time to chill out, watch something outlandish on the box and just " lose " myself. A better analogy for me is I only enjoy a pint if I've feel I've earned it.
I mention a lot on this forum, and I maintain it, that we ALL let ourselves down, that we have things to offer that have two fold benefits: we can help others and as a consequence, we feel good about ourselves. Volunteering perhaps. I swear, there is no buzz like someone saying to you " thank you, I really appreciate your help ". Is volunteering an option? You meet new people, and it does wonders for your self esteem. Try to be Pro active if you can, in getting " out there ". Get some structure in your life, start a new hobby, is there anything you've put off, wanted to do but haven't got round to it. It's important that we try to have a little variation, if your shy or introverted, look online for Organizations or Groups of like minded people. Meet people, by doing so doors are often opened and opportunities to try new things occur. But we need to put in as much effort as we can to make the first step. There ARE people out there who feel the same as you, want the same or similar things as yourself. We ALL need to feel there is a point to our lives, a purpose, and believe me there are folk out there who desperately need help and / or companionship. It's about making the first step.
Good luck buddy, try if you can to fill your life with a little variation, and remember, there is nothing - in my humble opinion - that beats the feeling of seeing someone's life change for the better and that you were a big part in making it happen. All the best and take care blue, but this was also meant for those on here who are obviously experiencing the same things as you.
Hi COYBL
I have responded to his post and if he wants to chat, he can DM me, take care
@Curtis, it’s sad to hear that things haven’t improved for you since you last shared.
As you say, there are a slew of things going on that you’re trying to deal with.
Forgive me for saying but you need to seek professional help, if possible.
What with the OCD, seizures and depression, only an experienced counsellor or psychiatrist could lead you through these. Do you access to those kind of support systems?
I’m not familiar with how this works in the US but is they’re any similar steps you can take like in the UK. (Doctor referral)
I know it’s all about money and that may be a barrier for you.
Sorry I can’t give you a better reply but please know that I and others are here for a chat anytime you need.
My thoughts are with you and try to look after yourself. Take care mate ?
As you say, there are a slew of things going on that you’re trying to deal with.
Forgive me for saying but you need to seek professional help, if possible.
What with the OCD, seizures and depression, only an experienced counsellor or psychiatrist could lead you through these. Do you access to those kind of support systems?
I’m not familiar with how this works in the US but is they’re any similar steps you can take like in the UK. (Doctor referral)
I know it’s all about money and that may be a barrier for you.
Sorry I can’t give you a better reply but please know that I and others are here for a chat anytime you need.
My thoughts are with you and try to look after yourself. Take care mate ?
Thanks for the response.
I think you're correct and I take no offense to your suggestion of seeking professional medical counsel. I currently dont have access to insurance so it's been difficult to acquire the necessary assistance. Even when I had the access I found my the resources quite inadequate. But maybe that's an area to research once again. I honestly didnt expect anyone to resolve my more serious afflictions but needed a venue to commiserate over my discord. The desolation has been devastating. I appreciate you and others for taking the time to read my posts and offer support.
Surely if your current situation can mostly be attributed to an incident during your vocational duties, then the onus for getting support should be with your current ( previous) employers.
They should be insured to cover subsequent treatment for their employees, if it started on their watch.
Duty of care and all that. ??
Have you had a look at the Mental Health Forum in the UK mate ?
I can guarantee there’ll be people on there who share similar problems to yourself ?
Nah being a yank I never considered that as an option but I'll check it out. I'm open to any potential resource.
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@Barnfred 55 how you getting on mate? Not seen you post much recently hope all is good.
It's been a long term issue unfortunately stretching back decades. I even had a concussion a couple years back that lead to a reoccurrence of my seizures and in America they didn't have bare any responsibility to aid me. Currently I work for Amazon but part time as my health issues curtail my availability. You need full time to access benefits. The health system in America as I'm sure you're aware is highly flawed. This most recent bout of seizures is probably more attributed to my recent breakup sadlySurely if you’re current situation can mostly be attributed to an incident during your vocational duties, then the onus for getting support should be with your current ( previous) employers.
They should be insured to cover subsequent treatment for their employees, if it started on their watch.
Duty of care and all that. ??
I know the larger health issues are beyond the capacity of this forum but I'd love advice on just finding people to talk about movies, tv , videogames , history and other intellectual matters. Those things help me cope with the turbulence.
Ah, ok. I was trying to see if you could pin them on the assault that happened to you whilst working in the mental health sector.
I thought that would give you grounds for some sort of support/ compensation, if you could ‘prove’ that was the root cause of your ongoing medical issues.
Just trying to find a way through for you mate ?