Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Durham Toffee · June 26, 2016

kithnou said:
I would think it's normal mate as a dad.

Are you getting phone call permission on a daily basis from the ex?

Yeah, the relationship there is very open and civil. But it's the loneliness of the night before I sleep. Those ridiculous things that go through my head. What if she has a bad dream? What if she wanders out of bed and falls down the stairs? What if she's poorly and her mam doesn't hear her? Its absolutely ridiculous nonsense and I know she'll be fine, but not being able to hold her and make sure of it makes me panic and I spend hours trying to distract myself before I fall off to sleep about 3am.

With a 6am start, that's not really best.

kithnou · June 26, 2016

Durham Toffee said:
Yeah, the relationship there is very open and civil. But it's the loneliness of the night before I sleep. Those ridiculous things that go through my head. What if she has a bad dream? What if she wanders out of bed and falls down the stairs? What if she's poorly and her mam doesn't hear her? Its absolutely ridiculous nonsense and I know she'll be fine, but not being able to hold her and make sure of it makes me panic and I spend hours trying to distract myself before I fall off to sleep about 3am.

With a 6am start, that's not really best.

Understandable mate. Willing to bet you most dads in your situation feel the same.
Also willing to bet you the little one will be fine as well. Go to bed mate.

wbn61 · June 27, 2016

Off to a funeral in the morning for a supporters club member, going to be a weird experience I think.
Everton shirt to be worn.

Groucho · June 27, 2016

wbn61 said:
Off to a funeral in the morning for a supporters club member, going to be a weird experience I think.
Everton shirt to be worn.

Hope it goes as best it can mate.

kithnou · June 27, 2016

wbn61 said:
Off to a funeral in the morning for a supporters club member, going to be a weird experience I think.
Everton shirt to be worn.

Just thinking how "weird", for lack of a better word, this must be for you?

wbn61 · June 27, 2016

Groucho said:
Hope it goes as best it can mate.

Well that was a bit surreal, everyone was in black with blue clothing or an everton scarf and me in my jeans and everton top. I didn't stop long just enough to pay my respects and make a donation. Only knew 1 other person there, thought there would be more. Makes you think how many would turn up to mine lol.

wbn61 · June 27, 2016

Busy day, next i'm off for a ct scan. Why I don't know.

blueloon · June 27, 2016

wbn61 said:
Busy day, next i'm off for a ct scan. Why I don't know.

Er , duh, to make sure you haven't lost your ct of course.

wbn61 · June 27, 2016

All finished for the day, come on iceland

kithnou · June 27, 2016

wbn61 said:
All finished for the day, come on iceland

Durham Toffee · June 27, 2016

Being a proud Viking, I must smile...

wbn61 · June 28, 2016

It never ends, many of you agree that feelings for a pet are strong, well another of our cats is suffering, her infection is eating her flesh away and she has gone blind, going to the vets tomorrow but not hopeful. Sorry for being so graphic.

ilikecheese · June 28, 2016

wbn61 said:
It never ends, many of you agree that feelings for a pet are strong, well another of our cats is suffering, her infection is eating her flesh away and she has gone blind, going to the vets tomorrow but not hopeful. Sorry for being so graphic.

Pets are family members full stop.

If she is suffering, and the Doc can't ease it, you will make the right choice...as you would want to do with any family member.

blueloon · June 28, 2016

wbn61 said:
It never ends, many of you agree that feelings for a pet are strong, well another of our cats is suffering, her infection is eating her flesh away and she has gone blind, going to the vets tomorrow but not hopeful. Sorry for being so graphic.

We've got four cats, and I must admit was never a cat person until I met my wife, she's always had four. Last year we had to have our ginger cat , 18 , put to sleep at the vets, grit in eye stuff even now. It's surprising , well perhaps not, how attached you get to them. Good luck at the vets mate.