Well done mate, just getting there and staying for a few hours is a MAJOR achievement.
Step by step mate.
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Well done mate, just getting there and staying for a few hours is a MAJOR achievement.
Step by step mate.
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
Thanks @COYBL25 and @anjelikaferrett.
I'm seeing it as a positive. Six months ago I wouldn't even have attempted to go. It was quite nice that one of my colleagues noticed I was really struggling and helped me make a quiet exit. Even let everyone else know I had left so I didn't have to deal with all the goodbyes.
I'm seeing it as a positive. Six months ago I wouldn't even have attempted to go. It was quite nice that one of my colleagues noticed I was really struggling and helped me make a quiet exit. Even let everyone else know I had left so I didn't have to deal with all the goodbyes.
The Dunc
Player Valuation: £500k
Perfect advice. I have a border collie and a Cocker spaniel, might not be to everybody's taste as they need loads of exercise, but I've got such a bond with them don't know what I'd do without them.
Sy-
Player Valuation: £8m
Kudos for the foray outside of the comfort zone, but don't feel bad for not wanting to stay long!
Words to live by: "Yeah, I'll drop in for a bit". Perfectly ambiguous and non-committal.
When you've had enough: Disappear into the night like a formless ninja.
I've left things after 20 minutes before, if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. Nobody is ever genuinely offended that you left without saying goodbye... unless maybe it's your own wedding.
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
Thanks for the replies too.
I know I need to change things as I'm not happy. But finding motivation to do stuff is hard. The thoughts at stayin alone over Christmas is not nice but the thoughts of goin out to the mayhem of it does not appeal either
I know I need to change things as I'm not happy. But finding motivation to do stuff is hard. The thoughts at stayin alone over Christmas is not nice but the thoughts of goin out to the mayhem of it does not appeal either
Feeling in a bind again and need some advice, typically it will be something that will seem very small to everyone else I'm sure but it's causing me a lot of angst.
My team in work have agreed to go for a meal on Friday before we go off for Christmas. I was up for that but earlier today I found out the resturant they want to go too is down the road from a bar that I frequent and am very friendly with the staff. I fancy one of the staff and have been trying conjure the courage to ask her out for a while to be honest, we're very friendly but anxiety has held me back so far. My colleagues now want to go in to this place for drinks on the night after we've eaten.
The dilemma is, I behave differently in work to how I do with when I'm friends outside of it, I play the clown in the office a bit but i'm a bit more shy in social settings. Now I'm feeling very awkward at the prospect of going in there and inter-twining two, i've mentioned this girl to my colleagues before but I never imagined having to deal with them all being in the same place, the potential embarrassment or awkwardness could be excruciating. I don't know what to do now. To just go and see what happens and risk it all blowing up into a mess or to make my excuse to not go and hope no one gives it a 2nd thought.
The match best be good tonight, I need my mind off this crap haha.
My team in work have agreed to go for a meal on Friday before we go off for Christmas. I was up for that but earlier today I found out the resturant they want to go too is down the road from a bar that I frequent and am very friendly with the staff. I fancy one of the staff and have been trying conjure the courage to ask her out for a while to be honest, we're very friendly but anxiety has held me back so far. My colleagues now want to go in to this place for drinks on the night after we've eaten.
The dilemma is, I behave differently in work to how I do with when I'm friends outside of it, I play the clown in the office a bit but i'm a bit more shy in social settings. Now I'm feeling very awkward at the prospect of going in there and inter-twining two, i've mentioned this girl to my colleagues before but I never imagined having to deal with them all being in the same place, the potential embarrassment or awkwardness could be excruciating. I don't know what to do now. To just go and see what happens and risk it all blowing up into a mess or to make my excuse to not go and hope no one gives it a 2nd thought.
The match best be good tonight, I need my mind off this crap haha.
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efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
I'm probably not the best person to advise as I struggle in social situations. Maybe you could tell your colleagues that you'll attend the meal but might not make the drinks afterwards. Tell them you have plans early the next day. Then you could just see how you are feeling after you leave the restaurant. If you are feeling good head to the pub with them. If not make your excuses and head home.
I'm seconding what @efcforever says mate.
Go to the meal and then make an excuse.
Regardless of anything happening in the bar, you're not going to relax for a second whilst you're in there, so what's the point in going ?.
Swerve.
Foot Long Hot Dog
Player Valuation: A packet of pork scratchings
Don’t let on to your work mates that the girl behind the bar in your local is the one you fancy, easy done.
If you’re more gregarious in a social setting with your workmates than you would be if just with your own mates, why is that? Which one is the one you’re more comfortable being? Which one is the real you?
When I was young I used to care desperately what people thought about me and how I came across etc. Then one day I thought about why that was? Since that day I just don’t care, I’m just me, if you love me or loathe me I’m NEA, but I’m always true to myself.
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
I admire this attitude mate. I hope I can get there myself one day.
Nice one everyone for the kind words and advice. I usually know the answers to my own questions, it just hits home better when I hear or read it from someone else so that's why I ask.
Christmas parties and meals with work colleagues isn't really for me, I've never had a good experience going along to them in any job i've been in and not going to the bigger one the other week, which involved the whole company of about 80 people, was the right decision in the end (apparently it was a shambles). My team members want me to come but they don't know my reasons for being heistant, i've just said I not wanting to drink at the moment. I don't particularly like SOME of them anyway, or not enough to go out with them anyway because I'd feel awkward. Especially when they're going to a place where I like to go with my friends and care about how I come across.
Christmas parties and meals with work colleagues isn't really for me, I've never had a good experience going along to them in any job i've been in and not going to the bigger one the other week, which involved the whole company of about 80 people, was the right decision in the end (apparently it was a shambles). My team members want me to come but they don't know my reasons for being heistant, i've just said I not wanting to drink at the moment. I don't particularly like SOME of them anyway, or not enough to go out with them anyway because I'd feel awkward. Especially when they're going to a place where I like to go with my friends and care about how I come across.
It`s what`s best for you and your health that matters mate, not what other people think
How are you getting on mate, any news ?
Foot Long Hot Dog
Player Valuation: A packet of pork scratchings
Off for a CT scan today mate. I’ll get the results after Christmas......hopefully